How to Get Pregnant – Baby Making Sex
Introduction
Here we get to the nitty-gritty: How do you really make a baby? You have sex, of course. Yes, you need to try and predict your ovulation through charting your cycle, but if you and your partner don’t get busy, then your goal cannot be realized.
Obviously, it only takes one time to create a baby. In order to maximize your odds of conceiving, though, it is best to have intercourse at least a couple of times during your fertile time. After having read this book, you are aware of the infertile times of your cycle.
It is a good idea, however, to be sexually active throughout your cycle. Why?
1) Frequency of ejaculation can help improve the motility of sperm. It is not recommended that your partner refrain from ejaculation for more than a week.
2) Trying to conceive can be stressful for both partners. If you are only intimate in order to make a baby, then you are putting undue pressure on those few times that you engage in intercourse. Your partner may have a hard time a) getting or keeping an erection, or b) ejaculating. To avoid these situations, have sex throughout your cycle. Moreover, if you are having trouble predicting ovulation, this strategy will maximize your chance for success.
How To
Yes, I realize that you know how to have sex. Try and think of this as baby making sex, however. It should be a bit different from your normal activities. Of course, just by having sex, you can get pregnant, but if you follow some of these tricks of the trade, then you will enhance your chances.
Many believe that baby making should be fun and spontaneous. Yes, you can have fun, but spontaneity should be reserved for your infertile times. Baby making requires planning to increase your chances of conceiving. After all, if you wanted to be spontaneous, you wouldn’t be reading this book.
Sperm Count
Sperm count is a key factor in conception. Total count, concentration, motility, abnormalities, etc. are all components of semen analysis (S/A). If your partner has been tested, then you are a step ahead of most couples. If your partner has not been tested, then it is best to assume a normal sperm count in the beginning of your trying to conceive journey.
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Normal Sperm Count
It is necessary for your partner to build up his sperm count before starting the baby making process. A three day period of abstinence goes a long way in ensuring that there will be a sufficient concentration and number of sperm to get the job done. Remember that abstinence excludes all forms of ejaculation: oral sex, masturbation, intercourse, etc.
After your partner “suffers” through this three day period, have intercourse on a daily basis. Make sure that you are timing sex at least 24 hours apart, though. Your partner needs this time to “refuel”. This means that you do need to schedule your times of intimacy. Pick a time of day that you are both free and unencumbered.
Mona and her husband, Mike, decide that 10pm is the best time to engage in baby making sex. At this time, they are usually settling in to watch the news. They are relaxed and have finished all of the day’s chores and activities. Moreover, they have a sufficient amount of time and do not need to rush.
Mike and Mona’s Timetable:
1) They have intercourse on Monday night.
2) Mike then abstains until 10pm on Thursday night.
3) The couple then engages in baby making sex every night at 10pm from Thursday through Sunday.
4) Mona’s chart shows probable ovulation occurring on Saturday.
Low Sperm Count
For a low sperm count, you should be engaging in baby making sex every other day (48 hours apart) because your partner needs more time to “refuel” then a man with a normal sperm count needs. Abstaining from ejaculation for at least three days before you start your baby making schedule is still crucial.
Jeff has a low sperm count. He and his partner, Cara, decide that since they usually go to sleep at 11:30pm, they will start their baby making encounters at 10:30pm.
Jeff and Cara’s Timetable:
1) On Monday, Jeff masturbates. He then abstains until Thursday night (observing the three day rule).
2) The couple has intercourse Thursday, Saturday, Monday, and Wednesday nights at about 10:30pm.
3) Cara’s chart shows probable ovulation occurring on Tuesday.
It’s not Working!!
I had recommended that in the absence of any medical testing, you should assume that your partner has a normal sperm count. After a few non-successful cycles, however, a change can be made. You may decide to go with the low sperm count schedule of intercourse which is every 48 hours. You might, however, want to try a more moderate schedule of every 36 hours. The latter might be a little more tricky, schedule wise. As a couple, you will need to find two times during the day that are free and unencumbered. Obviously, this is a much easier scenario for a childless couple.
Lucy and Rob have been trying to conceive for four cycles. Rob has not had an S/A done, but they have assumed his count was normal, thus having intercourse daily. The couple decides that they would like to try the 36-hour method. Lucy needs to get up for work at 7am while Rob doesn’t need to arise until 8am. The couple decides to set the alarm for 6:15am and engage in baby making sex. They know that they will also have to have sex at around 7pm, about 36 hours later. This is also a good time for them because it is after dinner.
Lucy and Rob’s Timetable:
1) They engage in intercourse on Saturday morning.
2) Rob abstains until Tuesday morning (observing three day rule).
3) The couple then has sex at these times: 6:15am Tuesday, 7pm Wednesday, 6:15am Friday, and 7pm Saturday.
4) Lucy’s chart shows probable ovulation occurring on Friday.
NOTE: If you are having intercourse daily, then it is very important to leave 24 hours in between “sessions”, allowing time for your partner to rebuild his sperm count. If you are following a 36-hour or 48-hour schedule then being off by a couple of hours will not be as much of a problem.
Pattern
Practice makes perfect. It is much easier to plan your intercourse timing and frequency when you have charted at least two cycles (three or more is better) because then you will have an idea of your personal pattern. You will want to know at what point in your cycle you usually ovulate. This does not mean that you have to state: “I ovulate on cycle day X”. Although this is ideal, it is not realistic that you will ovulate on the exact same cycle day each month. It is more probably that you will be able to state a range: “I will probably ovulate sometime between cycle day X and Z.
It is ideal to engage in at least two baby making encounters before your ovulation date, to try and ensure fertilization.
O Day is the Best Day???
Many women think that if they have intercourse on ovulation day, then they will have done their best. This is a misconception for three reasons:
1) Many women notice that their peak day (last day of fertile quality cervical fluid (CF)) actually occurs one day before ovulation. Since fertile quality CF is the best medium of transportation for the sperm, it would stand to reason that your peak day is the best day to engage in baby making sex.
2) Many women begin to dry up on ovulation day. Sticky CF or no CF will be a major hindrance to the sperm’s motility.
3) It is best for the sperm to be in the fallopian tubes before the egg is released. It may take hours for the sperm to travel to the fallopian tubes. Unless you know the exact hour that you are going to ovulate, having intercourse on ovulation day can be a hit or miss prospect.
So if the peak day is the best day, then what? Obviously, if you are having sex daily, then hitting the peak day is no problem. If you are having sex every other day, it can be tricky. Try your best to include the peak day, but don’t fret if it’s not possible. Remember that sperm can live for five to six days in fertile quality fluid. If you have two days of eggwhite CF, and you have sex on one of them, then you are golden. Even if you miss your eggwhite day, but hit your creamy CF day, then you will still have a great shot.
Positions
Many women want to know what the best position is for baby making sex. There are two that I favor, missionary and rear entry. The one position that you definitely want to avoid is woman-on-top. The problem with this position is simply gravity. When your partner ejaculates while you are on top, there is an increased chance that the sperm will leak out. Missionary is usually the favored position, but rear entry has a distinct advantage of depositing the sperm closer to your cervix.
NOTE: Rear entry can be more of a disadvantage if your partner ejaculates too deeply, creating a pool of sperm behind your cervix. To minimize this risk, your partner should pullback slightly just before ejaculating.
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To Recline is Divine
After intercourse, it is preferable that you lie down on your back for at least 15 minutes with your hips elevated. This practice will allow the sperm time to begin their journey to the fallopian tubes without having to fight gravity. To elevate your hips, put a pillow underneath your bottom. Have your partner turn on the TV for you or better yet use the time to talk about your day with your significant other. 15-30 minutes is all you need to allow the sperm to get a head start.
Have a Tilted Uterus?
20% of women have a tilted uterus. This means that the uterus tips either forwards or backwards (anteflexed or retroflexed). Having a tilted uterus does not decrease your chances of conceiving. It is actually considered to be akin to being left-handed. You can improve your chances by engaging in rear entry intercourse, however. Also, it is recommended that instead of lying on your back for 15-30 minutes after intercourse, you lie on your stomach instead. Put a pillow underneath the upper part of your thigh for elevation.
Things to Avoid
1) Saliva: it can kill sperm. It is best not to engage in oral sex before you have intercourse.
2) Some commercial lubricants: many of them will decrease your chances of conceiving. If you must use lubrication, real eggwhites are ideal. Also, a new product, Pre~Seed Intimate Moisturizer, has been receiving rave reviews from women, so it may be worth a try.
3) Woman-on-top position: it should be avoided at time of ejaculation.
4) Getting up immediately after intercourse: if possible, give the sperm some time to travel by lying down afterwards.
Happy Baby Making!
++ Related Article: Best Sex Positions to get pregnant ++
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if a male should have sex with afemale on menstration period,what will happen?
Shortly before the menstrual flow begins, the cervical os (passage) opens. If intercourse is done now, any bacteria that is in the vagina may be pushed into the uterus. There is somewhat of an additional possibility of infection from now throughout the menstrual flow despite the movement of menstrual fluid out through the cervix.
Conception is unlikely during menstruation as ovulation does not normally occur until approximately a week after flow ceases. However, surprises do occur! Ovulation can take place when it is not supposed to. Counting on menstruation preventing conception is not 100% reliable.
I am happy with sex with wife. But no oral sex is not good. Baby is coming soon, thank you for this story.
The act of sexual intercourse and making babies has never sounded so boring.
hi all,
this shiva from india do you help please unhappy in sex life why because
when am doing sex i will very short time who can i do more time please help
regards & thanks
shiva
my test count report:
Volue 2ml, Colur Grayish White, Sperm Cout 75 millions/ml Liqufication: 20 Minuties, Progressive: 20%, Non Progressive 20%, Ded 60%, Morphology: 70% Normal , Doctor Take Heyforte tables daily 2 for 60 days but know whats in my repot whether will have baby………………………………!
am i too fat? i weigh over 100kgs and eat healthy but been for over 6 months and nothing.
I dn’t knw how 2 count my ovulation time.I want 2 b pregnant 4 my fiance.
okay so my fiance wants to have a baby but she cant because the thing that makes the baby is pointing toward her back what can i do to get her pregnant?
@steve jude, rear entry position (her on her hands&knees) is the best position for her. Like myself she has what u call a tilted uterus. When ejaculating pull back just a tad so that the sperm doesnt pool at the back of the uterus, then have her lay on her stomch for atleast 15 minutes. It may tame a few cycles before being able to announce u have a bun in the oven but practice makes perfect. Good luck to u both and best wishes!
We had tried 4 years to make a baby and we went to many doctors and many planning and many tests,vitamins and so on,…all doctors said we are very much okay ,healthy and that there is no problems for us in making a baby,YET NO BABY.It’s so frustrating that I almost lost any hope in making babies.what could then the problem be!!!?
it is ok just believe in your pennis
I m newly married woman wanna to be pregnant soon. Me and my husband is trying since the very first day of my marriage. We married on september 2010. My blood group is B-ve and my husband blood group is A+. I wanna to know that whether +ve and -ve blood group are the problem in pregnancy? Please advise me for the same. I am waiting for your reply.
Thanks & Best Regards
Shilpa
hey dear,
First of all congratulation for you married life!
you have RH factor -ve blood group. There is no concern that you can’t pregnant. But in the fourth month of your pregnancy one injection is compulsory for you and coming baby. the name of injection is Anti D
bbye take care
i am sanjay, I will Married before 2yrs but i cant able to making a baby child so please help me
hi
Its been 4 years we have been married,i am 29 years old we have decided to start on family .My husband has a back problem due to which we avoid missinonry position so while intercourse we land up doing women on top position and every time the sperm leaks out my husband takes the sprem and deposits it back in the vagina with his hand .Wht i need to know is will i be able to concive ..one more thing is i have a backward uters Please help
hi
i am still awating for my reply plz help
Its been 4 years we have been married,i am 29 years old we have decided to start on family .My husband has a back problem due to which we avoid missinonry position so while intercourse we land up doing women on top position and every time the sperm leaks out my husband takes the sprem and deposits it back in the vagina with his hand .Wht i need to know is will i be able to concive ..one more thing is i have a backward uters Please help
No problem,
Just have your husband have sex with you on all fours and he on his knees or standing from behind while you are on the bed. Because your uterus is the other way, this allows sperm not to leak out and it also saves his back. Lay on your stomach for 30 minutes afterwards.
The biggest source of back problems is dehydration. Fully hydrated, your disks in your back are full and hard to injure. Have him drink more water. Also, stretching is important. If he stretches after drinking water, he can remove the lactic acid buildup in the muscles, which often causes pain.
Hope this is helpful
Aaron
i have been trying to get pregnant with my hubby for 3 going on 4 years and nothing we have tryed every thing and nothing… is there any thing that really works? im getting tired of trying and the heart break… so plz tell me if you do know!
i got married 4years ago but so for we haven’t any baby we did lot of checkup everything is ok so please help us that how we have to sex for baby making or anythingt else
Hi me n my husbnd have been married 4 2ys now bt we tried so hard to have baby but still nothing happen and we really want a baby and start our family so will you please help me.
hi i am lokesh i had intercourse in back position i intercoursed in out 3times.then before sperm comes out i removedout and leaked out on ground.wil this makes baby
my husband and i have been trying to have a baby now for 5years, We have had a success but after 3months i had a miscarriage, but then we found a very good family clinic in south africa that’s helping us. So now its just up to the baby making sex.
@ Alleta – where is the clinic in south africa?
hi im ashleigh,
me and my boyfriend have been trying 4 a baby 4 about 5 month and we have not been able 2 have a baby wat can we do 2 have a more likley chance of having a baby??
i am kalim want soon looking to my wife pregnant so help me tell me how i can easy doing this remember its my 2nd marry i have already first wife but she can’t born to any baby and after 2 days get to my next wife so kindly explain me
thanks
kalim
Hi i m vinu u tell me after starting of period how many days required for making pregnent a girl.
i have been married for 1yrs .please tell me from being mensuration date in how many days shall i do sex and have a baby
Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost two yrs and we want to have a baby. We have tried everything what else can we do its very fustrating and it makes me feel very hurt. Help us with advice please.
Hi
Been trying for 11 month’s now and am feeling like there is no hope, not been for test’s yet, kinda scared as to what they might say, my periods have been irregular, giong anywhere from 23 days to 30 days??? Whats all that about is this normal so i feel we cant work out exact dates of ovulation! so we tried everything, having sex everday to having sex every other day with a days break for him! all different positions, laying on front laying on back legs up in air, you get the picture, if its myth or help we tried it and still nothing!!! Some people just get sneezed at by there partner and they are pregnant no planning, no money to support there choice of a child, we both have stable jobs a house and just a lot of love to give a child and cant give it cause we cant concive, thinkig of having tests done but dr’s wont till a year of trying not long now, willing to try anything if you can help please, awaiting anxiously for you reply’s.
Thanks Emma-Lou and Paul
Hi Emma,
I know how extremely frustrating it is to try and get pregnant! I have a daughter who is 10, and a son that just turned 3! This past June, I had found out that I was pregnant with my third, which I did not want anymore children, I was happy with one of each. In the middle of August I was on vacation at my sisters house, and had a miscarriage. I would have been almost 3 months when I miscarried. It has hurt me to my core! Ever since then, My boyfriend and I have been trying to conceive yet once again. I have been charting and tracking my ovulation and menstral cycles. I have bought one of those dry erase boards that you can write out a month and it will help you if you know what days and keep track of what day you start your period, hpw long it lasts, and how many days in between periods. If you can do that, and figure out that information, then you can type into google free ovulation calendar and it will give you an idea when the best approximity would be that you are ovulating and fertile. I have been doing that for almost 3 months now, and my fertile time is in the next 3 days so me and my man will be busy! I wish ALL the best of luck, and if you ever have any more questions, please feel free to email me with any of them, I have a support blog on facebook and so help alot of wanting to be mommies out. Best of luck!
i want to make a bay i have been trying for 4 months but we are unable to. please help me to explai how to have a baby.
Hi..
I am Samoan.
I am not yet married, but soon to be married.
Me and my fiance have been trying for 8 months and still NO BABY.
Do you have any tips please?
I’m 19, and i lost mai virginity @ 16. I haven’t concieved since then; and I’m beginning
To think I can’t have kids. The problem is; I’ve been dating this guy and we want to
Have kids in the near future…but I’m having trouble concieving. Wat should I do??
Sir,
I am married and is planning to have my baby at the earlisest. Its now eight months after marriage, still not concieved. Consulted doctors and they endorsed no problems for both of us. Please let us know the best way to get concieved.
I had been on birth control for 5 years and my husband and I tried for over a year to get pregnant. I was beginning to think that I couldn’t get pregnant. My mom told me a way to get pregnant and I followed her advice and a month later my husband and I are pregnant and due January 30, 2012. This was her advice….Count 10 days from the day you start your period, on the 10th day after you start have sex every other day until you get pregnant or start your next period. Hope this helps….We ended up pregnant after one month of doing this!
i want to hv sex with my boy frnd plz help me
Hi,
I have been haveing sex with my boyfriend and after our first child I can’t seem to get pregnant again. Any help?
what medicanes do you really have to take to get preg ive been trying for almost 2 yrs after my lost from 5 yrs ago someone pleze help me out
Hello Im 27 years old me and my husband have been trying to get pregnant for 9 years and nothing! ,we recently had a sperm count done on him and it was 15 million only..so he is low we were told. I have irregular peripds as well so my doctor put me on provera..today is my 10th pill no
W kust waiting on my period! When do I start having sex? & os it possoble to get pregnant on his low sp
Erm count??
Hi my fiancé and I are trying to have a baby. We had sex on Sunday 5 days before I ovulated and then twice on ovulation day and twice the next day. Can I be pregnant?
Instead of having sex after you ovulated, try to have sex on the 2 days preceeding ovulation day. It will increase your possible success rate dramatically. Best of luck.
I had been on birth control for 5 years and my husband and I tried for over a year to get pregnant. I was beginning to think that I couldn’t get pregnant. My mom told me a way to get pregnant and I followed her advice and a month later my husband and I are pregnant and due January 30, 2012. This was her advice….Count 10 days from the day you start your period, on the 10th day after you start have sex every other day until you get pregnant or start your next period. Hope this helps….We ended up pregnant after one month of doing this!
hey im 18 and so is my boyfriend we have been trying for a baby for nearly 8 months now and nothing, could there be something wrong i also smoke and have been for about 10 months, i would give up straight away if i was pregnant and my boyfriend is a little overweight please help thankyou
hi
i want to have sex with my boy friend too so plz help me
i want have one more but i can’t
i want to have a baby but I don’t know how to do and I. don’t know when I am ovulation?some people tell me that befor7days n after7days can have a baby is it right?