Dad’s role during homebirth
One of the many benefits about a homebirth is that dads are given the important roles they deserve. Many a partner, who may normally rely on others, will rise to the occasion when it’s clear he is the only one who can fill the role as dad at a homebirth. The best way to prepare to be a great partner and support for the mom is through communication. At points when a birthing mom is consumed with the experience of delivery it is the dad’s role to be her voice, when she cannot. At a natural homebirth, a dad can participate in most aspects of the birth.
At a homebirth, a dad will be comfortable in his surroundings and will feel confident to be a part of his child’s entrance into the world. Many men rise up to the responsibilities of being the main support for the mom during a homebirth, since there are no nurses to rely on. The other guests will be busy with their assigned tasks. The dad is important, needed, and valued during a homebirth.
A mom and dad must communicate with each other how they want things at their homebirth. Talking with the midwife regarding choices that are available for a natural homebirth will help them put together the birthing plan. The dad may want to do just about all the delivery or participate by cutting the cord. Each couple must find out what works best for them. Dads should be prepared to take on any task in case he changes his mind once things get moving along. During the intense parts of labor, the dad may have to speak up and remind the midwife or others in the room what the birthing plan is. If the dad chooses to be active in the delivery, have someone else ready to take on his role as coach so the mom doesn’t feel abandoned at the moment of delivery.
The dad should be prepared for the blood, the fluids, the goo, and anything else that may come from either the mom or baby’s body. The dad should reassure the mom that whatever is happening, that its OK and that she is wonderful at what she is doing. No matter what happens, the baby’s dad’s presence is extremely important to the mom, even if things don’t go perfect…they never do!
Even if the father is not confident he can handle the situation, he should be at the birth. He will probably discover hidden strengths and skills while welcoming his child into the world and supporting his baby’s mom.
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