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Here in this article we get to the real details of a sticky topic: How do you really make a baby? You have sex, of course – lots of it. Of course this does not take away some of the necessary preparation work. You still need to try and predict your ovulation through charting your cycle or an ovulation test. There is work involved for you and your partner, but if you don’t get busy and put some effort behind the idea of having a baby, then you cannot reach this important goal.
Obviously, it only takes one try to make a baby, but you do not know which attempt is the successful one. In order to maximize the odds of conceiving a baby, it is best to have sexual intercourse at least a few times during your fertile time. After having read this very article, you will certainly be aware of the infertile times of your cycle and have an idea on how to time your baby making sex. It is very important to be sexually active throughout your entire cycle. You probably wonder why that is and I will provide you with detailed information as you read on.
As mentioned it is very important in my opinion to be sexually active during your entire cycle. As an example the recurring frequency of ejaculation can help improve the motility of the sperm. This is an very important factor because otherwise the sperm might not be active and strong enough to make it all the way to where it counts. It is highly recommended that your partner or spouse does not refrain from ejaculation for more than a week. If you are not up for actual intercourse, there are many other ways to be there for each other, or he can always masturbate even he if does not prefer to do so. It is for a good cause and that might help to get over the hesitation.
Repeatedly trying to conceive can be very stressful for both partners and over time puts a lot of pressure on your marriage or partnership. If you are only intimate in order to make a baby, then you are putting unnecessary pressure on yourself. This will affect how you make intercourse and the quality of the intercourse. Stress symptoms are often problems getting or keeping an erection or to ejaculate. In addition, it can also affect the amount of sperm released during ejaculation. To avoid these stressful situations, have frequent sex throughout your cycle. Moreover, if you are having trouble predicting your ovulation or ovulation varies from cycle to cycle, this strategy of having more sex will increase your chance for success and takes away some or all of the stress.
I realize that you already know how to have sex. We all know how to do this. But if we all know how to have sex, why is it so difficult to have a baby then when you really want it to happen. Well, sex is not just sex when it comes to baby making sex. You have to try and think of it in this case as special baby making sex. Accordingly it should be a bit different from your normal sexual activities. Of course, just by having sex, you can get pregnant (why are you reading this article then?). Since you are looking for information I assume you have come to realize that it is not that easy as it looks like, but if you follow some of these tips and tricks described here you will definitely enhance your chances of becoming pregnant in no time.
Many believe that baby making should be fun and spontaneous. Yes, you can have fun and you should have fun, but spontaneity should be more reserved for your infertile times during the cycle. Baby making requires a little bit of planning increasing your chances of actually conceiving. After all, if you wanted to be spontaneous, you wouldn’t be reading this article at all. Let’s get started by looking into some of those items that can increase your chances.
Sperm Count is Important
Sperm count is a key factor in conception. Total count, concentration, motility, abnormalities, etc. are all components of semen analysis (S/A). If your partner has been tested, then you are a step ahead of most couples. If your partner has not been tested, then it is best to assume a normal sperm count in the beginning of your trying to conceive journey.
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Normal Sperm Count
If a sperm sample has less than 20 million sperm per ml, it is low sperm count. Therefore it is very important for your partner to build up his sperm count before you are starting the baby making process. A three day period of abstinence goes a long way in ensuring that there will be a sufficient concentration and number of sperm to get the job done. Remember that abstinence excludes all forms of ejaculation: oral sex, masturbation, sexual intercourse, sperm donation, etc.
The Time Table
Now let’s get the timing right. When the fertile part of your cycle comes into reach, your partner or spouse should have a 3-day resting period accordingly. This 3 day break needs to end about 48-72 hours before you are ready to conceive. To make this easier, count backwards 6 days from the approx. date of ovulation. That’s where the 3 day break starts. Half-way through these 6 days, get started with baby making sex. From here on you should have sexual intercourse on a daily basis. You also need to make sure that you are timing sex at least 24 hours apart from each intercourse. Your spouse needs this time to refuel (well, so to speak at least). You want to make sure that the sperm count does not drop down too much. This means that you need to carefully schedule your times of having sexual intercourse. Preferrably you want to pick a time of the day (or night) that you both free of stress and tasks and have time to be intimate with each other.
Jenny and her husband, Tom, like to plan their baby making adventure with a little more detail. They decide that 9.30 pm is the best time for them to have baby making sex. At this time of the evening, they are usually settling in on the couch to watch shows they recorded via Tivo. At this time of the day they are very relaxed and all of the day’s chores and activities are taken care of. The stress from eventually having a very busy work is settled, too. Moreover, they have a sufficient amount of energy and time left and do not need to rush going to bed.
Jenny and Tom’s Baby Making Sex Time table:
1) They have baby making intercourse on Thursday night.
2) Tom then abstains until 9.30 pm on Friday night (3 days).
3) The couple then engages in baby making sex every night at 9.30 pm from Friday through Monday.
4) Jenny’s chart shows probable ovulation occurring on Sunday.
Low Sperm Count
If your spouse was tested and it was determined that his sperm quality is considered as low, the following time table will help to improve the sperm count and to improve your chances of conceiving anyway. For a low sperm count, you should be engaging in baby making sex every other day (48 hours apart) because your partner needs more time to “recharge the battery” compared to a man with a normal sperm count . Abstaining from ejaculation for at least three days before you start your baby making schedule is still crucial and important.
Frank has a low sperm count. He and his partner, Amanda, decide that since they usually go to bed at around 11:00 pm, they will start their baby making sex at 10:00 pm.
Frank and Amanda’s Timetable:
1) On Monday, Frank and Amanda get intimate with each other and Frank gets to ejaculate with Amanda’s help, but they do not have actual intercourse. He then abstains from sex until Thursday night (following the important 3 day rule I mentioned earlier).
2) The couple has sexual intercourse Thursday, Saturday, Monday, and Wednesday nights at about 10:00 pm as planned.
3) Amanda’s ovulation chart shows probable ovulation occurring on Tuesday.
It’s still not Working!!
I had recommended that in the absence of any medical sperm count testing, you should make the assumption that your spouse has a normal sperm count. After a few non-successful cycles, however, a change can be made to that assumption. Consider it the trial and error attempt. You may decide to follow the low sperm count schedule of sexual intercourse which is every 48 hours. Do this for another 2 cycles first. You are free to alter this schedule a little bit and plan for having sex every 36 hours instead of 48 hours. The latter might be a little more tricky to plan for since it shifts some of the baby making sex events from the evenings into the daylight. So, this might not work for everyone, but it is worth trying. As a couple, you will need to find two times during the day that work for your schedule. Obviously, not each baby making sex session needs to be an hour long – a quicky might do just fine and you might be able to spice it up by finding different locations for the sexual intercourse.
Lucy and Jeremy have been trying to conceive for five cycles. Jeremy has not had a Sperm test done yet, but they have assumed his sperm count was normal. Accordingly they had intercourse daily. The couple now decides that they would like to try the 36-hour variation instead. Lucy needs to get up for work at 6 am while Jeremy doesn’t need to get up until 8am. The couple decides to set the alarm for 5:15am and engage in baby making sex. They are fully aware that they will also have to have sex at around 6 pm on the next day. This puts some stress on Jeremy as his commute from work is often difficult due to traffic conditions, but they think it should work out just fine. The actual time of having sex is also a good time for them because they prefer late night dinners anyway.
Lucy and Jeremy’s Baby Making Timetable:
1) They engage in intercourse on Saturday morning.
2) Jeremy abstains until Tuesday morning (observing three day rule).
3) The couple then has sex at these times: 5:15 am Tuesday, 6 pm Wednesday, 5:15 am Friday, and 6 pm Saturday.
4) Lucy’s chart shows probable ovulation occurring on Friday.
NOTE: If you are having intercourse daily, then it is very important to leave 24 hours in between “sessions”, allowing time for your partner to rebuild his sperm count. If you are following a 36-hour or 48-hour schedule then being off by a couple of hours will not be as much of a problem.
Repeat after me: Practice makes perfect
Practice makes perfect. It is much easier to plan your sexual intercourse timing and frequency when you have charted out at least two cycles (three or more is actually much better). More data about ovulation is better because then you will have an idea of your personal ovulation pattern. You will want to know for sure at what point in your cycle you usually ovulate. The more accurate the data, the higher your chances to time the baby making sex correctly. Of course this does not necessarily mean that you have to be able to guarantee: “I ovulate on cycle day X”. Although this would be ideal, it is not realistic. There are too many factors that can influence when exactly you will ovulate, especially that you will ovulate on the exact same cycle day each month. Consider it more like that you want to be able to set a range of days where it is most likely that you will ovulate. Being able to say: “I will probably ovulate sometime between cycle day X and Z.” is a great way to get started.
It is ideal to engage in at least two baby making encounters before your ovulation date, to try and ensure fertilization of your egg.
Ovulation Day is here. Is it the Best Day for baby making?
Many women think that if they have intercourse on ovulation day, then they will have done their best. This is a misconception for three reasons:
1) Many women notice that their peak day (last day of fertile quality cervical fluid (CF)) actually occurs one day before ovulation. Since fertile quality CF is the best medium of transportation for the sperm, it would stand to reason that your peak day is the best day to engage in baby making sex.
2) Many women begin to dry up on ovulation day. Sticky Cervical Fluid or no Cervical Fluid will be a major issue to the sperm’s motility.
3) It is best for the sperm to be in the fallopian tubes before the egg is released. It may take hours for the sperm to travel to the fallopian tubes. Unless you know the exact hour that you are going to ovulate, having intercourse on ovulation day can be a hit or miss prospect.
4) Sperm Life Span. If the sperm makes it to the cervix it can survive for several days. If it only makes it to the vaginal canal, the life span of sperm is just a few hours.
So if the peak day is the best day, then what? Obviously, if you are having sex daily, then hitting the peak day is no problem. If you are having sex every other day, it can be tricky because might be a day short or a day too far out. Try your best to include the peak day, but don’t fret if it’s not possible. Remember that sperm can live for five to six days in fertile quality fluid. If you have two days of eggwhite CF, and you have sex on one of them, then you are golden. Even if you miss your eggwhite day, but hit your creamy CF day, then you will still have a great shot.
Baby Making Sex Positions
Many women want to know what the best position is for baby making sex. There are two that I favor, missionary and rear entry. The one position that you definitely want to avoid is woman-on-top. The problem with this position is simply gravity. When your partner ejaculates while you are on top, there is an increased chance that the sperm will leak out or not get in far enough. The Missionary position is usually the most favored baby making sex position, but the rear entry position has a distinct advantage of depositing the sperm closer to your cervix.
Please note: Rear entry can be more of a disadvantage depending of your (or his) anatomy. If your partner ejaculates too deeply inside you, it can cause a pool of sperm behind your cervix. That’s the wrong place for the sperm to be. To minimize this risk, your partner should pullback slightly just before ejaculating.
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To Recline is Divine
After intercourse, it is preferable that you lie down on your back for at least 15 minutes with your hips elevated. This practice will allow the sperm time to begin their journey to the fallopian tubes without having to fight gravity. To elevate your hips, put a pillow underneath your bottom. Have your partner turn on the TV for you or better yet use the time to talk about your day with your significant other. 15-30 minutes is all you need to give the sperm a great head start. In the grand scheme of things everything that you can do to help the sperm, is considered worth a try.
Things to Avoid
1) Saliva: it can kill your sperm. It is best, not to engage in oral sex before you have intercourse.
2) Some commercial lubricants: many of them will decrease your chances of conceiving. If you must use lubrication, real eggwhites are ideal. Also, a new product, Pre~Seed Intimate Moisturizer, has been receiving rave reviews from women, so it may be worth a try.
3) Woman-on-top position: it should be avoided at time of ejaculation.
4) Getting up immediately after intercourse: if possible, give the sperm some time to travel by lying down afterwards. Some women like to lay on their back with the knees pulled up to the chest.
Do you Have a Tilted Uterus?
According to medical statistics, roughly 20% of women have a tilted uterus. This means that the uterus tips either forwards or backwards (anteflexed or retroflexed). Having a tilted uterus does not decrease your chances of conceiving. It is actually considered to be akin to being left-handed. You can improve your chances by engaging in rear entry intercourse, however. Also, it is recommended that instead of lying on your back for 15-30 minutes after intercourse, you lie on your stomach instead. Put a pillow underneath the upper part of your thigh for elevation. But it is important to confirm that you really have a tilted uterus.
Happy Baby Making!
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